THREE IN THE BOND
21 – So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh.
22 – Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man.
23 – The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
24 – For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
“Before you marry, keep your two eyes open; after you marry, shut one.” – Jamaican Proverb
A little boy told his father that in Sunday school class he had learned about the time Jesus went to a wedding and made water into wine. His dad then asked him, and what did you learn from that story? The boy thought for a moment and answered, “If you’re going to have a wedding, make sure Jesus is there”.
Marriage was never meant to be a duet but a trio. It is a bond between a man and a woman who love each other and the God Whom they both serve. This is the way God designed it. He is to be the glue that holds every home together. The psalmist said, “Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it.”
Marriage is the one human relationship with the most capacity for intimacy. Even with all our differences, marriage can work beautifully when we keep God at the center of the relationship because we know that He is the one who designed marriage. If a husband and wife each have a growing relationship with God they know the importance of valuing one another more highly than they value themselves.
Spouses who have a deep relationship with God through Jesus are confident about their identity. They learn to be a GIVER instead of a TAKER. They can also WALK in love every day-giving their spouse what he or she needs the most when it is least deserved because they know that’s exactly how God has treated them.
GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARITAL JOY goes like this:
a. BECOME the right person.
b. WALK in love.
c. FIX your hope on God and seek to please Him through this relationship.
d. If FAILURE occurs repeat steps 1, 2, 3.
God says, instead of FINDING the right person, BE the right person. And this is so important because our love for others-especially our spouses-flows out of our sense of BEING deeply loved by our Creator. So instead of LOOKING for love, God tells us to realize that love has already FOUND us. He loves us more than we could ever deserve. He meets our need for love. And the best way for us to demonstrate that we have understood and accepted God’s love is to learn to imitate Him as closely as possible in the way we treat others-especially our spouses.
Quitting is not an option when both believe in Christ as the author and the one who completes. Both have to work harder on BECOMING the right person and on WALKING in love and on relating in ways that GOD would want them to relate.