Are You The One For Me?
Proverbs 20 : 6Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find?
Jeremiah 17: 9The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?
The excitement of Valentines
Valentines is just around the corner and a lot of people indeed feel totally sentimental about the ‘day of hearts’ as they say. Why is it that we seem to find this time of the year so special? Why are we so moved when our favorite love song is played on the radio? I guess the quick answer is because it’s natural. And I agree. As emotional beings, we are powerfully moved by feelings from within. And so I believe, that all of us will eventually have feelings of romantic love at one point or another in our lives.
The power of Love
Love is a very powerful thing indeed. God, being the source of all love has graciously endowed us, creatures made in His image, with this most powerful gift. Only through love will our purpose of existence be truly realized. When Jesus said that the greatest commandment was to love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength, He fully understood that love is the highest and greatest expression of a person’s being. When love is used in the way God intended it to be, the fullness of life’s meaning is realized. It is God who placed within us that capacity to love. In fact, that’s the second part of the greatest command… to love others. The Lord was saying that the most natural next step for a person, who claims to love God, is to love others. This is the love that sees families through extreme difficulty. It’s the love that keeps spouses faithful to each other. It is the kind of love that redeems society and ultimately makes nations stronger.
A love that is higher
How do you know if it’s true love? Is the person just flattering you or is he serious, sincere and knows what he’s getting into? These are real concerns, especially of the many young women today. Is it true love or just infatuation? What we need is a love that is higher. To illustrate my point let’s read this note from a young man writing to his ‘beloved’.
“Darling: I would climb the highest mountain, swim the widest stream, cross the burning desert, die at the stake for you, and I will do anything and everything for you! P.S. I will see you on Saturday — if it doesn’t rain.”
1 1Paul Lee Tan, Encyclopedia of 15,000 Illustrations
A strong solid love relationship is defined by commitment and sacrifice, not just mere flattering words. And since there is so much talk about love and finding our special someone, this week we’ll try to ask some practical questions that hopefully will guide us as we search for God’s will with regard to this most talked about topic of finding a lifetime partner.
4 Essential Questions
Are we meant to have a lifetime partner? If we are, when is the right time to have one? How do I know if this person IS the right one? In the next four days we’ll try to answer 4 essential questions that will help us know and discern God’s will regarding this issue. They are as follows:
1. Will my relationship with this person forward God’s mission?
2. Is this person’s character the kind I want my children to have?
3. Is our love based on feelings alone or on God’s unending love?
4. Will our relationship leave a legacy for God and His church?
The Divine Engineer
God is the author of love. Yes, even romantic love. If we want our love relationship to be strong enough to stand the test of time and safely sail through life’s various storms, then we need to consult the Divine Engineer.
In verse 10 of Jeremiah 17 this is what God says, “I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve.” He knows everything about us. He sees where we are and where we’re going. And He is the author of life, love, and marriage. Surely He knows what’s best. Let’s listen to Him.