LOVE DOES NOT ENVY.
1 Corinthians 13:4
“Love does not give up. Love is kind. Love is not jealous. Love does not put itself up as being important. Love has no pride.”
“Blessed is he who has learned to admire but not envy, to follow but not imitate, to praise but not flatter, and to lead but not manipulate”
— William Arthur Ward
Here’s what Chuck Swindoll shares on envy:
Envy is a painful and resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another … accompanied by a strong desire to possess the same advantage. Envy wants to have what someone else possesses. Envy is forever reaching, longing, squinting, thinking (and saying) sinister insinuations.
We envy those who:
• Can go anywhere they want, buy and eat anything they want, anytime they want
• Are more successful and more recognized
• Look better than us
James 3:16 NIV
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
An American blogger named Nathan Allen lived in the Philippines for 1 year. Please read his entire blog. Here’s an excerpt:
The Philippines seems to be a country full of consumers and copycats…You’ve got to have the latest shoes, bags, and phones. Otherwise, your value in society isn’t very high…But Filipinos, what are you producing? What are you contributing to the world? … Filipinos: Don’t try to be more like us, try to be more like YOU. I believe what the world needs now is more you, not more us…Be proud of your culture; your heritage… Please put an end to the “crab mentality” – lift each other up, don’t pull each other down. If your country is ever going to rise up and share its treasures with the world, you will have to foster an environment of praise and support for your countrymen.
Romans 12:15 NLT
Be happy with those who are happy…
Love is a decision. When your classmate gets recognized or your officemate gets promoted, celebrate his/her success. When your sister/brother is the favored one, just keep praying. Each of us has been given a gift. Each of us is a “10” in something. Discover what it is and grow your gift. You’ll have your time. Just keep working harder, better, faster, smarter, happier, more efficiently. Release your envy and lay it at the feet of Jesus. Ask Him to replace it with love because love does not envy.
Lupita Nyongo of Kenya recently won the Oscar’s for Best Supporting Actress for the role of Patsey in the film 12 Years a Slave. She’s the first Oscar winner in her country. She has a Master’s degree from Yale School of Drama. Upon being accepted out of 1000 women (which she was unaware of) who auditioned to play the role of Patsey, she immediately called her father to share the good news. He simply told her, “Good! You have a job.” He most likely said it to keep her feet grounded. It was her first major film, and immediately, an Oscar award.
But she wasn’t always confident and proud of the color of her skin. She was envious of white-skinned characters in films. Until she learned about the famous black-as-night supermodel Alek Wek, who was proud of her color. Lupita was transformed and she soon realized that her gift was not just to act but to use this gift of acting to make an impact on the next generation. Please watch this video and listen carefully to her definition of beauty.
SHOW VIDEO OF LUPITA NYONGO
(youtube title: Oscar Nominee Lupita Nyong_o Speech on Black Beauty Essence)
Charles Swindoll. Swindoll’s Ultimate Book of Illustrations and Quotes. Thomas Nelson Publishers, Nashville. 1998.