LOVE IS NOT RUDE
“or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.” – 1 Corinthians 13:5(NLT)
Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage.
“The God-lover should not point the finger but lend a helping hand.”
– IVP New Testament Commentaries
Has this happened to you: you’re ready to watch a good movie in your favorite cinema – you’re in your favorite spot, popcorn in hand, your phone is in silent mode. Then, as always, the person behind you kicks your chair, you hear the loud ring tone of somebody’s phone, and the people beside you chatter endlessly. You breathe to yourself, “How rude! Didn’t anyone teach you manners?”
We may not know it but we too might be rude in other ways…
How can you tell if you’re rude? Let’s have a quick self-test by answering true or false to the following statements:
1. I hardly reply in texts/emails.
2. I arrive late during appointments.
3. I don’t say “please,” “thank you,” “excuse me,” “thank you” as much as I should.
4. I use my phone/tablet unnecessarily during conversations/events/gatherings/movies/worship services.
5. I don’t clean up the bathroom after I use it. (flush, remove toothpaste stains, remove hair in drain, throw away sachet tears, return things in original place, etc.)
If you answered “true” to all, maybe this devotion can help…
According to vocabulary.com, “Rude describes a type of behavior that isn’t appropriate, and usually isn’t very nice…It refers to bad behavior or just plain bad manners.”
Proverbs 18:13 MSG
Answering before listening is…rude.
Jesus was seen as rude by the Pharisees.
37 …a Pharisee invited him (Jesus) to eat with him; so he went in and reclined at the table. 38 But the Pharisee was surprised when he noticed that Jesus did not first wash before the meal. 39 Then the Lord said to him, “Now then, you Pharisees clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside you are full of greed and wickedness. 40 You foolish people! Did not the one who made the outside make the inside also? 41 But now as for what is inside you—be generous to the poor, and everything will be clean for you.
More than good manners and proper ethics, Jesus was pointing out something more important. The Pharisees became such experts in spiritual rules that they forgot to take care of their relationship with God and with other people. Because they were blinded by their own legalism and self-righteousness, they showed more concern about hand washing than the presence of Jesus Himself. They thought Jesus was rude but in reality, they were the rude ones.
IVP New Testament Commentaries says, “Quick to point the finger but slow to lend a helping hand—that is Jesus’ complaint.”
Our good manners and proper behavior must be an overflow of our love for God. If we truly love God, He creates in us a heart that is considerate, sensitive, and mindful of others. He educates us and enlarges our love for others.
When people are rude to you, be careful not to be rude in return. Maybe they just don’t really know how it’s supposed to be. What’s important is that you are not rude, that you are respectful, and that you do everything out of love and not out of pride that you are more educated than others.
Watch this touching video of a boy who misunderstood his father who seemed to love others more than him. Because he felt his father didn’t care for him, the boy became rude and unkind to him. He only realized how beautiful his father’s heart was when the father died…because of the love of his father for others, he was able to pass on a legacy of a pure heart to this boy…
title on youtube: Gift – Singapore Drama Short Film // Viddsee