LOVE IS NOT EASILY ANGERED AND KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS.
“or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.” – 1 Corinthians 13:5
“90% of the friction of daily life is caused by the wrong tone of voice.” – Leadership, Vol. 1, Number 4, p. 23.
We’ve had our share of angry moments, perhaps when somebody said something against us, when somebody betrayed us or lied to us or misunderstood us. Maybe we were blamed for something we didn’t do or somebody took credit for our work. Maybe our dignity was violated.
We think it’s a sin to be angry, but it’s not. Jesus got angry several times when He was on earth, so did He sin? No. He’s perfect. He has no sin in Him. He got angry at the right time, within the right time frame, at the right place, for the right reasons, with the right heart and the right spirit.
S. Michael Houdmann (gotquestions.org) says, “Biblically, anger is God-given energy intended to help us solve problems. Anger has been said to be a warning flag—it alerts us to those times when others are attempting to or have violated our boundaries.” 1
Here’s what the Bible says:
Ephesians 4:26-27 NIV
26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold…
“In your anger”….meaning, we will get angry. It will happen. What shouldn’t happen is that we commit sin and let our anger take control over us. It’s okay to be angry, just deal with your anger carefully and properly so that you will not hurt anyone and damage any relationship, so that we will not do or say things we will regret, we will still be able to think rationally, we will not get sick, and we will not lose sight of God. Be angry, but deal with it the way God would want you to deal with it – still with love. Love does not get angry easily…
A man and woman had been married for more than 60 years. They had shared everything and talked about everything. They had kept no secrets from each other, except that the little old woman had a shoebox on the top of her closet that she had cautioned her husband never to open it or ask her about it.
For all those years, he had never thought about the box, but one day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said she would not recover.
In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took down the shoebox and took it to his wife’s bedside. She agreed it was time he should know what was in the box. When he opened it, he found two crocheted dolls and a stack of money, totaling $95,000.
He asked her about the contents.
“When we were married,” she said, “my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue. She told me if I ever got angry with you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll.”
The little old man was so moved; he had to fight back tears. Only two precious dolls were in the box, She had only ever been angry with him in all those years of living and loving. He almost burst with happiness.
“Honey,” he said, “that explains the dolls, but what about all of this money? Where did it come from?”
“Oh,” she said, “that’s the money I made from selling the dolls.”2
1http://www.gotquestions.org/anger.html – S. Michael Houdmann