Guys And Girls. The Third G.
The Gorgeous One.
You are attracted to the wrong person.
I don’t need to explain here why it is wrong. You know it is. And you also know how to stop the whole madness. In fact, you have read many books and heard countless teachings about it. But now the seduction is too strong to resist. He or she is just too gorgeous to ignore, and the feeling is too pleasurable. And now, inside you is a madhouse of conflicting thoughts, and you seem powerless to stop it. Your brain says stop, but your desire screams the loudest.
One man best describes the experience in what he said:
“I once faced a temptation that was so persistent and so overwhelming that I literally believed my whole world would go dark if I refused to give in to it…” ― Wesley Hill
When a person is overcome by his passions, all else goes black. It is like an addiction. And the forbiddenness of it only intensifies the yearning. One preacher said, “When a person is in love, the heart is alive and the brain is dead. And so he’s BRAIN DEAD.”
There’s no question about your intellectual capacity to comprehend what it is. You understand that the consequences will rip your life apart. But right now, you can’t think straight. Why? Because you have already opened the door wide, took a bite of the bait and now you’re trapped.
You see, there’s no middle ground with temptation where you can play a little bit without getting totally sucked up. If you don’t want to get burnt, don’t play with fire.
One author hit it bull’s eye:
“You cannot play with the animal in you without becoming wholly animal, play with falsehood without forfeiting your right to truth, play with cruelty without losing your sensitivity of mind. He who wants to keep his garden tidy doesn’t reserve a spot for weeds.”
So, first of all, DON’T START IT.
Stop sending that seemingly innocent text. Don’t get her coffee, don’t buy her lunch. Don’t get alone with him in that car. Don’t accept that friend request. Choose what you look at. Choose what you think about. There’s nothing real in DAY DREAMS and FANTASIES. DON’T PLAY with his emotions. Stop tickling your feelings. Discard anything that will set that fire in you.
BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND. Ask yourself, WHERE IS THIS GOING? What do I hope to accomplish? If there’s no noble answer to this question, then it is not love. It is nothing but LUST, with you having no real, honorable intentions other than using the person to make you feel good about yourself, or satisfy a sexual hunger, or fill an emotional void. Think for a second. Where do you intend to bring all of this? What does God feel about the whole idea?
Secondly, enlist the help of REAL FRIENDS WHO WILL DRILL THE TRUTH IN YOU AT ALL COSTS. Look for friends that would kidnap you without hesitation, TIE YOU ON YOUR CHAIR, or pin you on the wall if only to stop you on your deadly tracks. Have those people around you who will speak out the truth to your face when reason has left you, for it will surely leave you. Your brain won’t function the way it used to. So you need all the help from your friends who will pray and fast the madness out of you.
Third thing is, be the first one to PUT A KNIFE TO YOUR THROAT. This means a daily check on the contents of our hearts and minds. It requires HONESTY to YOURSELF, and a choice to WALK AWAY or RUN AWAY from temptations. It means your number one police is YOU, always on guard for impure motives and unclean thoughts, because that’s where it all starts. Read on:
“The things that tempt us do not come from external persuasions…they originate from our very own hearts. They’re conceived there, entertained by our thoughts and then acted upon. Our hearts need daily scrubbings and consistent discipline to battle against its baleful wishes. Knowing and shedding light upon our heart’s darkness with honest accountability is a good first step towards an untainted ticker!”
― Jason Versey, A Walk with Prudence
If you’re struggling now, bear this in mind: Give it time and the emotions will eventually die down.
At first it will be difficult. But stop watering the plant and it will wilt. Emotions, like plants, DIE A NATURAL DEATH when not nurtured. FIND OTHER THINGS TO THINK ABOUT OR DO. Avoid the places that remind you of the person. RESIGN FROM THAT JOB if necessary. Block him from your contacts or better yet, change phone number. Remove yourself from where she is. YOU NEED SURGICAL REMOVAL of the disease sometimes. Give up the CONNECTION. Leave the memories behind. They’re gone. Accept it. They’re not worth-keeping. It only hurts the heart of God.
Cut it off completely before totally being swept away by the current, leaving you unable to swim back to the banks of safety.
Don’t trust yourself with this one. Run while you can. And Pray as much as you can!
On reaching the place, He said to them,
“Pray that you will not fall into temptation.”
Lord, please deliver me from this desire that does not please You.
Forgive me for allowing it in.
I have vowed to love You, and I intend to be true to that promise.
Replace this unholy passion with A BURNING ZEAL FOR YOU,
With a BLAZING FIRE OF LOVE FOR YOU.
Calm this raging sea inside me and help me come out of this victorious, stronger, and wiser.
Please protect my walk with You as I also guard it with all the strength I can muster.
Help me reach the end triumphant… TO FINISH STRONG, my Lord… all with Your help and endless favor.